Thank you for joining us for this week’s blog. Welcome to 2020 and Happy New Year! (Yes, we realize it’s March!) How is it March already? It’s a strange feeling – it seems as though February went by so fast, but on the other hand, it felt like January lasted a year! It’s interesting how the feeling of time can shift quickly depending on what is happening for you, or around you.
We left off on our blog series with a focus on something that we all struggle with during the holidays: stress. Now that the New Year has rolled on and we’re looking toward the future, we are shifting our focus to something that we all feel with the dawn of a New Year, and a new decade: Hope.
That New Year Feeling: Hope
At the end of a year, we tend to create this dialogue about what the past year did or did not bring, and how we are shifting into hope for the New Year. Whether we want something different or more of the same, we invest a lot of hope into this change of the year.
Interestingly enough, shortly after January begins, conversations shift, and we hear more of, “nothing has changed” and, “time is dragging on”. Realistically, we all know that we are the agents of change, and it is truly up to us to create whatever change we want in our life, and yet hope still glimmers in the background. We hold on to the idea that at some point, the stars will align and something around us will change, creating a more pleasant experience.
If you have visited our office space, you will have likely seen one of our favourite quotes:
“When we are unable to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.” (Victor Frankl)
What does it mean? It means that ultimately, you are in control of change. That feeling when the stars are aligning? That’s actually something you created: You made that happen!
If you reflect on the times of that feeling when everything is just right, you can probably identify specific things that you did to make that happen. It can be as simple as changing the way you see something, or as monumental as committing to a major life change – you were ultimately responsible for that change.
I believe this is why we have hope and why we hold on to that glimmer-filled feeling. We know it happens, we have felt it, and we just don’t give ourselves enough credit. If you feel like 2020 is the time to create more of these moments for yourself, some important things to remember are:
- Timing is everything
- Patience is a virtue, and,
- Determination is essential.
As we often remind you in our blogs: don’t forget to be realistic. There is only so much you can do on your own. Reaching out for help is something you do to create change.
Take control of your change and bring on all the glimmer-filled feelings for 2020!
In our blog next week, we will focus on a topic that we often forget about: gratitude.
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